Current mood:

confused

Well since I see that the community is alive and well...
I might as well introduce myself.

You can call me Ione, my slave name. I live in New Mexico with, uhm, my parents. Sorry, that wasn't very exciting.

Now that you know who I am, I have a question concerning recent events with my Master. I'll put it behind a cut so as not to bore the uninterested.

The two of us started off in an actual romantic relationship, but that fell through. However, we were so sexually compatible that we continued to have a Master/slave relationship. We drew up a contract, and continued along our merry way for several months.

Recently, however, he began to feel that he didn't want the contract anymore. He decided to dissolve it. While he hasn't done anything that is against the contract, I have a nagging suspicion that he dissolved it because of one particular clause stating that neither one of us could have sexual relations with others (mostly for health and safety reasons). He has spoken often about his female friends and coworkers and how he is interested in persuing relationships, both romantic and sexual, with them.

I'm a very monogamous sort of girl, and I don't know how to take this. He tells me that he loves me and that I worry too much, but it has left me very confused and unsure.

So my question is. Is it within my rights to up and leave him? If it is, then should I?

Thanks for the input.

--Ione

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queenraveness
2005-02-20 11:52 am UTC (link)

It is always in your rights to leave if things are not working out. Letting someone be your Master is the greatest gift you can give and it is up to you to give it or not. Just be sure that you have a reason to leave other than punishments or something else that is part of the relationship that makes you unhappy that could be talked out.

If you are not happy and there is nothing that can be done to change that, leave.

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	violetangel2003 2005-02-20 11:58 am UTC (link)
	Thanks for the input. I'll try to have a talk with him about it first, and then I'll do what has to be done. By the way I love your icon. Bondage duckie! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	queenraveness 2005-02-20 11:59 am UTC (link)
	Thanks! (Reply to this) (Parent)

upyours0005
2005-02-20 04:50 pm UTC (link)

Talk to him about it. Try to work it out and get your feelings out in the open (be persistent if he belittles you or tries to shrug it off). You always have the right to leave if you're not happy. You might be master and slave, but don't take the roles TOO seriously, or you'll never stand up for what you want or need!

Anyway, constant chatter about other females, even if you are no longer in a "romantic" relationship, is just plain rude! Let him know that.

If he wants sex with others too, it might be in your best interest to leave. Sex and affection feel good, but herpes does not!

Welcome to the community, by the way!

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violetangel2003
2005-02-20 04:53 pm UTC (link)

I knew somebody who took the roles so seriously she wouldn't feed herself or use the restroom without her Master's permission.

I have pointed out to him that it's pretty rude for him to discuss his desire for other women (especially that little redheaded slut he works with...ahem), but he shrugs it off.

I think I've had the last straw though.

Thanks for the welcome to the community btw.

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	upyours0005 2005-02-20 05:29 pm UTC (link)
	Hey now, I'm a little redheaded slut -- slut being the name I like being called mid-coitus. I'll let that one go, though. ~_^ Eating and using the bathroom are pretty essential functions. I pity the fool who's too devoted for their own good! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	violetangel2003 2005-02-20 05:30 pm UTC (link)
	I'm technically a redheaded slut, if artificially redheaded counts. ;) Besides, I was referring to one specific girl he works with who has been on more laps than a napkin. (Reply to this) (Parent)

queenraveness
2005-02-21 04:05 pm UTC (link)

Now now if it's something that was outlined and talked out, it's not that bad. Lord and I have done the same... I'm not allowed to do ANYTHING without making sure it's ok first. Of course that is only something you can do with a Master you can trust to have your best interests at heart and won't abuse the gift you've given him. As I know Lord won't let me starve or wet myself, he just wants to remind me know and then that I am his to with as he wishes, and to be honest I need to be reminded of my place now and then ^_^

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	violetangel2003 2005-02-21 04:08 pm UTC (link)
	I still tend to ask Master's permission before I eat, mostly because I was placed on a diet for medical reasons and he's been very supportive and has helped me save myself from my own sweet tooth and utter lack of willpower. Using the restroom, however...if I ask him permission, he looks at me funny and waves his hand dismissively and says, "Why do you even ask?" (Reply to this) (Parent)